Lately I’ve been having some really stressful days, primarily caused by my work. I could list off all the ways I’m having trouble keeping my cool but I discovered a way that genuinely seems to help. Take a deep breath.
Do I mean meditate? Well that would be nice but I have a hard time keeping up that habit. Maybe that should be a goal for 2019. However, I just mean to breathe. When you get all stressed out, your breathing becomes shallow which then keeps you stressed! It’s like kicking yourself when you’re down. You can see it when people seem to be in a panic and you just want to go and say “Slow down, take a deep breath.” All my life I assumed it’s just to get people to stop rambling but it actually has a real effect in your body.
It’s hard to meditate in the moment because the thoughts are fresh and the problems are usually swirling around you. However, you can still take a breath. Take a few. Don’t make a big show of a noisy gasp of air. Just make sure you take a deep breath. Then take another. Do as many as you need until you feel your stress dip a little bit.
I hope this helps.
Good luck fuzzbutts!
As we continue to work toward our goals and pushing on the tasks at hand, it can become a bit overwhelming. We put in the effort to eat right and sleep well to maintain our energy. Sometimes we stretch too thin and have a hard time focusing. This happens when our phones constantly ding, notifications pop up even on Windows 10, and friends are trying to message us on Telegram and Discord!
Well, aside from a little mindfulness meditation sometimes, we need to take a step back from the distractions. Having to leave the house for a few hours, I made the most of it by going to the park and sitting down with a sketchbook for a bit. Sure I had my phone with me but I put it on Do-Not-Disturb and played some music while I sat there. Sitting in a park for 3 hours will really make your brain feel weird. I entered a different state of mind.
After a bit of time (because 3 hours feels like forever) I was walking along the path, picking up seeds from the palm trees and tossing them to squirrels to watch them pick them up. One came just inches from my hand! Eventually, my mind started to wander to the things I needed to do. Some of it actually made me feel like I’m spread too thin again, even if I just think of the goals I set last week. So maybe I need to tweak things already. By taking a big step away from doing the work, you’ll be able to see how you’re doing with your goals and efforts.
So take some time to get away from all the things keeping you busy and try to just detox from all the distractions. It’ll help you get your mind right and you’ll feel better after taking some time to go outside!
Have fun, furries!
That headline alone probably hit you in the feels. That’s ok. We’ve all hit those roadblocks. Those times where our plans suddenly fall through the floor or go up in smoke. Those times when you want a little support and nobody seems to have the time or the words. Things are breaking down and you’re on the verge of panic. The rough times. The etc etc.
Often times, there’s not much you can do about it. You have a couple of straws to grasp at but they don’t give you the sense of control to help you feel better. So here’s a couple of pieces of advice.
Stop. Just stop. Take a breath and calm down. Your mind is racing and telling you that there’s no time but there is. You need to pause and take control of your thoughts. Do some free-writing on the subject and you will feel a little more calm.
Keeps the lines of communication open. People who might not have been there when it happened when you were at your lowest might be there later. Accept their support if and when it arrives.
Finally, most of these things will pass. I’ve had plenty of cases in my life where it felt like my life was being flipped upside down, grinding my teeth at night, and waking up with a sense of dread. So what happened? I don’t remember. For something to make me feel so worried and panicked, I can’t even remember now. I remember how I felt but not the event. Think back to the last time this happened to you and realize the event wasn’t so terrible or at least helped you become the fuzzbutt you are now. This is different but it’s not THAT different.
When the problem hits, establish a little sense of calm in your life. Then realize this event might be changing your life but you are in control of how you respond to it. You’ll make it, fuzzbutts. Good luck out there.