It’s the end of the day and you lay your head down. You got a lot done today but you don’t feel so good about it. Your mind wanders around to the other things you didn’t do. Suddenly you’re in that limbo where you’re tired but you also feel bad for neglecting this or that so now you’re kinda resisting going to sleep. It’s a terrible mindset to have because it hurts your sleep and doesn’t help you feel any better. You’re practically drowning in guilt!
So how do we take care of that? Start off your day with writing down the things you want to get done. Take the time to think about your day, the time you have, and what you need to finish in order to actually feel like you had a good day. These things will jump out at you when you wake up in the morning. You focus on those tasks, get things done, and you’ll feel so much better at the end of your day. Sometimes it might just be one thing. Sometimes you might feel like doing NOTHING would be a good day because you’re such a busy vixen and, so long as that’s actually what you feel would make a good day, make sure you do that.
Then, you make to make an agreement with yourself that you will do those tasks and be guilt free, regardless of how you spend the rest of your day. The reason is that if we actually manage to accomplish our goals, we think about something else we could have done and then feel bad when we think about not accomplishing that last thing. This also means you need to pick your daily goals appropriately. Pick enough that you can actually get them done without aiming so low that you don’t make any progress.
Good luck, fuzzbutts!
Well it’s the second day of the new year! Hope you did alright in 2018. Now that we’re both becoming more active and productive with our lives, it’s time to look ahead to the rest of 2019. You’ve gone through some of your goals for 2018 to review how you did and maybe you’ve been putting together some goals for 2019. If you haven’t got your plan going forward, I recommend you get started. The sooner, the better!
One thing to keep in mind, as you align your various goals, is to envision yourself as the ideal you. How do you behave? What are your hobbies? What kind of work do you do? Imagine your ideal life for yourself. If you find it difficult to picture or detail your thoughts, then just pick somebody you know who you want to be more like. You’re not them and won’t ever be them but they have certain qualities you wish you would have or develop. Then work out your goals to help yourself embody those aspects. Are they disciplined? Maybe start with a set sleeping/waking schedule. Are they charismatic and friendly? Plan a goal that revolves around being more social. Do they keep things or drama from getting to them? Research some personal development articles or books to learn about how to deal with those situations. Are they learning something you want to learn? Start learning it yourself!
When working on yourself, you can find somebody to compare yourself against at the START so you can get a bearing on your life but then stop comparing yourself to them from that point onward. You can only really compare yourself against YOU. Compare how much you’ve developed yourself against who you were yesterday. If you don’t feel like you took any steps forward, then you have to assess and figure out a way to move ahead!
I’ve given myself a few goals this year and a new one I added was to move back out from the folks house this year. I’m going to start looking for a new apartment in March. The folks are great but I don’t see myself staying here for another 2 years to build up enough money to buy a condo. I’ve been looking for a new job around most of the country but haven’t had much luck with the process which makes me think my career isn’t far enough along for companies to want to import me from California. So if I haven’t found anything by March, I’m moving out, signing a year lease, and then being the best darn chemist at my current job that I can possibly be.
I hope you’re coming along nicely in reaching your goals and ideal self! Feel free to share or reach out to me if you want to talk about it!
Have fun, furries!
The year is ended, you’ve accomplished so much this year. Have you reviewed your year and how much you’ve gotten done? Hopefully, following my blog, you’ve done more this year than you even expected! Now, I hope you’ll be able to get even more done in 2019 as we work through the processes of how to get more done!
So let’s set some goals! We need some short-term goals and long term goals for the year, keeping them in line with our life goals we’re working toward. Want to draw more or get more followers this year? Remember, these are SMART goals- Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. Decide and write out your goals in that format. Then keep your written goals somewhere you can see them so you can think about them.
Have a much more general goal that’s harder to put in SMART format? I want to make more friends. Well you need to break down the issue with questions that help you make it into something you can work with. How do you make more friends? Meet more people. How do you meet more people? Find things people do that I also like to do in a social setting. How do you find those things? Look it up online. Now let’s say you found something that you want to do in a social setting with others. The SMART format could be Attend X numbers of meetups in 2019. Not bad. Of course you’ll have to learn and adapt more about the way you behave to earn more friends but you need to try.
Want to move out of the house in 2019? Find some relevant goals for that. Pick a place you want to live, increase your income if necessary, plan on how you would actually move your possessions, etc.
There’s a lot of stuff out there to try and work toward. You have a whole year to do it and if you work on it regularly, I believe you have what it takes to reach your goals this coming year! Have any SMART goals already? I’d love to hear them! Use the Contact Wuffles link to the left and let me know. Having trouble figuring out how to break down a goal? I’d be happy to help if you reach out using the same link! I look forward to hearing from you all!
Good luck, fuzzbutts!
Good morning Fuzzbutts!
Today I want to advise you on a small trick to accomplishing your goals: do a little bit. Open your big furry maw and take a small chomp out of whatever you need to do to work toward your goals. Just find the next small thing you need to do for your goals and get that piece done today!
Often times, you might even find yourself able to keep going. A five minute blender tutorial might turn into an hour of reviewing tutorials and you’re actually much further along than you would have been! A short walk turns into a long walk or maybe even a jog because you put on your exercise clothes and went outside! Drawing a head turns into a full pose.
The point isn’t to just get started and you’ll do a ton (though I think that’s a pawsibility). The real purpose of it is to just get a little something done toward your goals. Even if it takes you a long time to finally reach your goal by taking baby steps, you’ll eventually be way further along than just not doing anything because you make the task too daunting to accomplish. Let the goal in the far, far distance be the daunting thing. For now, take the tiny step forward and take a small bite out of the things you need to do.
Good luck out there, fuzzbutts!
As we continue to work toward our goals and pushing on the tasks at hand, it can become a bit overwhelming. We put in the effort to eat right and sleep well to maintain our energy. Sometimes we stretch too thin and have a hard time focusing. This happens when our phones constantly ding, notifications pop up even on Windows 10, and friends are trying to message us on Telegram and Discord!
Well, aside from a little mindfulness meditation sometimes, we need to take a step back from the distractions. Having to leave the house for a few hours, I made the most of it by going to the park and sitting down with a sketchbook for a bit. Sure I had my phone with me but I put it on Do-Not-Disturb and played some music while I sat there. Sitting in a park for 3 hours will really make your brain feel weird. I entered a different state of mind.
After a bit of time (because 3 hours feels like forever) I was walking along the path, picking up seeds from the palm trees and tossing them to squirrels to watch them pick them up. One came just inches from my hand! Eventually, my mind started to wander to the things I needed to do. Some of it actually made me feel like I’m spread too thin again, even if I just think of the goals I set last week. So maybe I need to tweak things already. By taking a big step away from doing the work, you’ll be able to see how you’re doing with your goals and efforts.
So take some time to get away from all the things keeping you busy and try to just detox from all the distractions. It’ll help you get your mind right and you’ll feel better after taking some time to go outside!
Have fun, furries!
Want to get better at art? Found enough general tutorials to get you going so you have some of the basics down? Got a couple of characters you can draw well?
Chances are you’re good at canines and felines. How about drawing horses or deer? Can you draw a species different enough that people recognize the difference between a fox and a wolf by you? I’ve seen plenty of great horses drawn but I’ve also seen some that look almost like wolves without the scruffy fur. So how do you work on that?
Well take out a page and download a mess of reference images. Then just draw what you see. It’s practice! You focus on the imagery and draw it up as much as you can. Draw a drew practice heads or poses and then step back and try to notice the details. Where did you go right? Where did you go wrong? Are there common features that you see are useful for you to convey the image? Are there spots that you can’t seem to get right and need to work on deeper? Keep going!
So if you’re working on doodling up some furry art, take the time for deliberate practice and drawing things you’re not experienced or skilled with. Aside from just drawing a ton, deliberate practice will be one of the best ways to improve your skills!
Good luck, fuzzbutts!
This week’s tip that I want to recommend is for your to pick a goal and sign up for something related to that goal. Want to get better at art? Sign up for a painting lesson. Improving your fitness? Sign up for a walk that supports a cause like breast cancer research or something more fun like a mud run and spartan race. Get better at dancing? There’s events you can go to!
The reason behind this is to add a layer of discipline and accountability. Having trouble getting to the gym? Well that race or running event is only a couple months away so you better get in there! Can’t sit down and draw? Well now you have two hours blocked off on Thursday to sit down and paint!
One part that is important is to make it social, even if it’s not with your friends. Just being around others makes it a totally different experience than if you just tried to do it yourself on your own. One thing we furries need to do more of is behind out and about in public! As long as it’s even just somewhat related to your goals, it’s worth investing in!
Here’s my result of a Sip n’ Paint event I did this week. For those unaware, you pay and get a canvas, paints, and can enjoy some alcohol while an artist instructs you on how to make a painting! Fun at any level!